Showing posts with label military. Show all posts
Showing posts with label military. Show all posts
Monday, September 21, 2015
International Day of Peace
This morning I read the New York Times article about the Afghani military practice of raping boys and young men, even at military bases. It's a sign of status for upper-level police and military to surround themselves with these boys. Evidently, our military, the ones we support with not only our tax money but our hearts (and if we don't we're called treasonous or cowards), have been instructed to basically turn away from what is determined to be a cultural thing. The article explains that many of our military have shirked from "turning away," have "beaten up" some of the Afghani men who they've caught with boys and -- well -- I wish I had words, but this is about the best I can do. I won't even go into why the hell we're still "over there," why we appear to be, now, (and arguably have always been) a colonial power, and the whole magnitude of the thing we've wrought as a country since that terrible day in September, 2001.
International Day of Peace, indeed. I guess it starts at home, so I'm going to continue the disconnect that is the disease of this country and refrain from telling my boys that if they don't pick up their wet towels from the bathroom floor, they will be lashed with wet noodles. I'm going to go quietly and gratefully into the bathroom, pick them up from the floor, fold them inward on both sides, like I like it, and hang them just so, just where the light illuminates their neat blue folds.
The poet C.K. Williams died today. Here's a poem:
Claws
from the Sanskrit of Mayura
The claws of the mighty nation dabble the gore-pools
and wallow the muddy flesh of the horrible enemy.
Human mouthfuls plucked like reeds. Hearts, plucked.
The claws dancing in the torn chest like herons.
MAY THE MIGHTY NATION PROTECT YOU!
Monday, June 1, 2015
Girding My Loins
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| Edwardian woman boxer found on the internets |
I've got to gird my loins and get to The Latest Insurance Snafu. You might remember that Sophie had some routine bloodwork done a few months ago, not for the hell of it but per doctor's orders, and the insurance company only paid an infinitesimal amount despite it being an in-network provider. When I inquired, The Poor Person Who Has to Work the Phone at an Insurance Company did her clicking around and told me that the labwork was covered but venipuncture is not covered. I already wrote about this, I believe, so I won't belabor the point. I put it aside because, if you remember another post I wrote, my coping mechanism is to Do Only One Thing At A Time. Mulling or mewling or moping (not musing) about why poking Sophie's vein with a needle is not covered, although the actual blood analysis is covered was just too much that day for my tiny little mother mind,™ not to mention actually addressing the problem full-on which means calling the provider, telling her to correct the wrong diagnosis code or ask for a more specific diagnosis, use the numbers V72.6 instead of 82036, etc. etc. etc. It's time to gird my loins and do it.
I've got some figurative or mental loin-girding going on as well these days as the end of the year at Sophie's public school wraps up. This is the third year that Sophie is considered a senior, I think, or someone has neglected to remove her from the school's graduating class rolls, so I'm subject to a daily and sometimes thrice-daily robo call letting me in on all the fun goings-on for graduates. To be fair, because of the public education laws, Sophie is allowed to stay in school until she's 22 years old, and my gratitude is nothing short of all holds barred. What comes next will call for more than just the girding of the loins, but that's a story for -- well -- another day. In these parts, we take living in the present to the extreme.
Anyhoo.
Last night, the phone rang, and Oliver picked it up and put it directly on speaker so we could laugh ruefully about the message. This one gave a stern warning that all seniors were to clean out their lockers by no later than 10:00 this morning and that fun festivities were in order later in the day to honor the outgoing class. So far, Sophie should have picked up her cap and gown, cleaned out her locker, gathered with her classmates for a celebration and even checked out the ROTC recruiters in the parking lot with all their cheerful guidance toward a life of bravery, courage and sacrifice. Tonight, I told Oliver to please hang up the phone I don't want to hear it anymore. Oliver asked me whether it made me sad, and I said, yes sometimes it makes me really sad. We both agreed that it's weird to think of Sophie being almost the same age I was when I graduated from college this exact time of year.
Who knew that space cadet grad with thoughts of medieval French literature, modern poetry and a summer ahead of perhaps teaching English to Chinese students in Taiwan or staying with the love of her life in Chapel Hill was going to have to gird her proverbial loins to just make and listen to telephone calls in about thirty years?
Thursday, August 23, 2012
Boys, Girls, The Military, Illusions and a Must-Read by Chris Hedges
| Trench warfare, World War I |
The disillusionment comes swiftly. It is not the war of the movies. It is not the glory promised by the recruiters. The mythology fed to you by the church, the press, the school, the state, and the entertainment industry is exposed as a lie. We are not a virtuous nation. God has not blessed America. Victory is not assured. And we can be as evil, even more evil, than those we oppose. War is venal, noisy, frightening, and dirty. The military is a vast bureaucratic machine fueled by hyper-masculine fantasies and arcane and mind-numbing rules. War is always about betrayal—betrayal of the young by the old, of idealists by cynics, and of soldiers and Marines by politicians.
-- Chris Hedges
You know when the big war holidays come around -- Memorial Day, Veterans' Day, etc. etc.? Those of us who oppose war and shrink from glorifying it in any way, also shrink from expressing our true opinions of it -- how difficult it is to "honor soldiers," pay respect to those who have given us "the ultimate sacrifice" -- because we will (and often are) called unpatriotic, miserable, and ungrateful. I have been called all of these, even by members of my own family, so I generally post a poem or two written by Wilfred Owen, one of the young artists of World War I who not only spoke eloquently of the war he experienced but actually died in the trenches fighting. I've gotten into "trouble" on this blog expressing my opinion of war, my reluctance to pay homage to those who fight it, my struggles and conflicts regarding young men and women who offer themselves up to either kill or be killed and sometimes both. I have a long list of comments, all from Anonymous, who denounce my pacifist leanings, and some have said terrible things about my Swiss husband and even our children. I have a relative who works in a branch of the services who told me recently, quite sarcastically and casually, that he would continue to "be on the watch," guarding me as I ungratefully lived my otherwise carefree life, taking advantage of those, like himself, living a higher purpose. And while I might roll my eyes at the censure (who in the hell does he think is paying his salary?), I balk at the vast distance between those like me and those like him. I wish it weren't so.
War comes wrapped in patriotic slogans; calls for sacrifice, honor, and heroism; and promises of glory. It comes wrapped in the claims of divine providence. It is what a grateful nation asks of its children. It is what is right and just. It is waged to make the nation and the world a better place, to cleanse evil. War is touted as the ultimate test of manhood, where the young can find out what they are made of. From a distance it seems noble. It gives us comrades and power and a chance to play a bit part in the great drama of history. It promises to give us identities as warriors, patriots, as long as we go along with the myth, the one the war-makers need to wage wars and the defense contractors need to increase their profits.
But up close war is a soulless void. War is about barbarity, perversion, and pain. Human decency and tenderness are crushed, and people become objects to use or kill. The noise, the stench, the fear, the scenes of eviscerated bodies and bloated corpses, the cries of the wounded all combine to spin those in combat into another universe. In this moral void, naïvely blessed by secular and religious institutions at home, the hypocrisy of our social conventions, our strict adherence to moral precepts, becomes stark. War, for all its horror, has the power to strip away the trivial and the banal, the empty chatter and foolish obsessions that fill our days. It might let us see, although the cost is tremendous.
When I went to Washington, D.C. last spring with my two sons, I realized that much of the city is built around memorials to war, to violence, to honoring those who have either killed in defense or perished for freedom or been burned or tortured or otherwise obliterated for ideals. I know, such is life, and I'm not going to pretend that I have any answers. I tromped around and exclaimed at the beauty of the monuments, the history of the brave and the great sentiments, even as I shrank at the horror of it all. My son Oliver, now eleven, has always been a bit star-struck by soldiering, and given his lack of enthusiasm for school, I get nervous, every now and then, that one day he might want to join the military. Last spring, when the Armed Forces took over a section of the parking lot of Sophie's large, public high school, populated primarily by the disadvantaged and minorities, with their trailers and tents and cheerful pamphlets, I felt nauseous. Cool! Oliver said, when he saw the recruiters, spanky shiny in their stiff uniforms. Awesome! It helps that The Husband is utterly and completely anti-war and also has a cool disdain for American jingoism, but every parent knows that our influence on our children is haphazard at best. For all I know, Oliver (much like his mother -- ahem --) might completely buck our system, vote conservative and become a general.
The Husband, disturbed by what he sees in our sons' starry-eyed view of soldiers, guns and blow-em-up escapades, brought home a recent article in Boston Review written by the Pulitzer prize-winning correspondent Chris Hedges. It's called War is Betrayal: Persistent Myths of Combat. Hedges writes in simple, powerful language that from as far back as The Iliad, the allure of combat is a trap, a ploy, an old, dirty game of deception in which the powerful, who do not go to war, promise a mirage to those who do.
The Husband is going to have Henry, my older son, read it, and then discuss it with Oliver, too. I figure that, at best, it'll begin to help balance out the bullshit that they've already been exposed to, and we'll hopefully steer them toward a different sort of service in the world, recognizing that yes, this is part of life, but we won't kill to make it better.
Read the whole article here.
Saturday, July 21, 2012
I feel like my brain is being sucked out by a vintage hairdryer
- Why did I argue on Facebook with some members of my family about the Second Amendment and gun control laws?
- Why did I bother when I knew perfectly well that their beliefs are nearly antithetical to my own?
- Why did the shooter in Colorado have no problem buying more than 6,000 rounds of ammunition for his guns?
- Why is there not unequivocal agreement that the above is INSANE?
- Why was it easier for that guy to buy his guns and ammo than for me to petition my private insurance company to add an epilepsy drug to the formulary so that I can afford to give it to my disabled daughter?
- Why don't I feel nearly as much terror about what happened yesterday in Colorado than in the newest statistics about global warming?
- Why do people believe the NRA to be anything but a powerful business conglomerate interested solely in money and power?
- Why do people insist that owning a firearm gives one the ability to defend oneself? From what?
- Why is everything couched in military terms?
- Why don't I feel the same warm, fuzzy feelings about American "liberty," "freedom," and "values" as my relatives?
- Am I a bad person for not thinking like them?
- Are they bad people for not thinking like me?
- Why are Christian conservatives so afraid?
- Why am I not afraid?
- Why do I get called a "libtard" if I question American exceptionalism?
- Why in the recent spate of mass shootings did no one fire a gun in self-defense if this is an argument used by NRA types? Surely one or more of the nearly 50% of Americans who own firearms have been bystanders in the recent spate of killings.
- Why is the United States ranked fourth in the world for murders by firearms after South Africa, Columbia and Thailand?
- Why is Switzerland, with such high gun ownership rates, such a peaceful country?
- Why does Switzerland's populace feel that since they are a wealthy country, it's their duty to protect the most vulnerable (the disabled) from birth to death?
- Why do Americans believe that protecting the most vulnerable is tantamount to socialism, one of the world's greatest evils?
- Why do people insinuate that I should just "love it or leave it?"
- Why don't I just move to Switzerland?
- Why does the United States account for 5% of the world's population but 25% of the world's incarcerated population?
- Why does posing these questions incite others to claim moral superiority over me with their faith in the status quo?
Reader, I'm certain you have answers to some of these questions and perhaps even some questions to add.
Please do.
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