Saturday, November 28, 2015

Who Mocked My Firepit Parenting Idea?

So, a couple of weeks ago I revealed a picture of our new backyard, grass-stripped and re-designed with drought-tolerant and California native plants. I also described my intent to keep my teenage boys at home with their friends as opposed to carousing the streets of the big shitty in low-rider cars, smoking pot and drinking beer. Last night, there were friends, marshmallows, Hershey bars, graham crackers and carols 'round the fire-pit.

Just kidding on the carols.

In other news, my friend Allison Ray Benavides of Pediatric Cannabis Support has written a remarkable post about caregiving, epilepsy and what she calls both Chronic Horrific-Trauma Integration Experience and just fucking bullshit. She describes some very interesting resources, too, including Neurogenic Yoga and Trauma Releasing Exercises. Check it out.

I'm laying low these days as we transition to two households. I won't be writing about that sort of thing, but please know that we'll all be okay. This morning was the first that the children set out with their father for breakfast in different parts. I thought I might want to drive myself around the big shitty in my sexy white Mazda, smoking pot, drinking vodka and listening to Van Morrison, but instead I'm feeling quite peaceful here in my beautiful, quiet house.

Julian of Norwich said, All shall be well, and all shall be well and all manner of thing shall be well.


  1. I love that quote and think of it often.
    And I also love the fact that the boys are enjoying the fire pit. There is something magical and magnetic about a fire.

  2. All good things. Even the two household thing. We did that two years ago and have no regrets.

  3. I've got a lower rider. Let me know when you're ready to drive around and get high. Love you xo

  4. Well, "brown-eyed girl", enjoy that peace and quiet!!


  5. I love my fire pit, it can be a kind of meditation. Henry and his friend, starring into the fire, look pulled in to their own momentary meditation.

  6. Two households are so often the best thing for everyone. My own transition brought me to my knees. I remember the first few months when my kids were "at their dad's" I cried and cried every time they left. But like most things. it gets better. Sending love.

  7. Firepits and creating safe space for your kids and their friends: brilliant. You done good, mama.

    As hard as the transition to two households is, I have great faith that you will handle it with grace and the best interests of your children in mind. That is just who you are.

  8. Every time I read your posts, my first thought is, "I love her." And I do.

  9. It looks lovely and friendly and warm.

  10. I'm impressed that the firepit parenting has been successful! :)



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