Friday, September 23, 2011

Talents and Gifts

It is worthwhile making a distinction between talents and gifts. More important than our talents are our gifts. We have only a few talents, but we have many gifts. Our gifts are the many ways in which we express our humanity. They are part of who we are: Friendship, kindness, patience, joy, peace, forgiveness, gentleness, love, hope, trust, and many others. These are the true gifts we have to offer to each other.

Somehow I have known this for a long time, especially through my personal experience of the enormous healing power of these gifts. But since my coming to live in a community with mentally handicapped people, I have rediscovered this simple truth. Few, if any, of those people have talents they can boast of. Few are able to make contributions to our society that allow them to earn money, compete on the open market, or win awards. But how splendid are their gifts! Bill, who suffered intensely as a result of shattered family relationships, has a gift for friendship that I have seldom experienced. Even when I grow impatient or distracted by other people, he remains always faithful and continues to support me in all I do. Linda, who has a speech handicap, has a unique gift for welcoming people. Many who have stayed in our community remember Linda as the one who made them feel at home. Adam, who is unable to speak, walk, or eat without help and who needs constant support, has the great gift of bringing peace to those who care for him and live with him. The longer I live in L'Arche, the more I recognize the true gifts that in us, seemingly non-handicapped people, often remain buried beneath our talents. The so-visible brokenness of our handicapped people has, in some mysterious way, allowed them to offer their gifts freely and without inhibition.

More surely than ever before, I know now that we are called to give our very lives to one another and that, in so doing, we become a true community of love.

Henri Nouwen

Thank you,  Carolyn, for reminding me of this beautiful writer.


  1. Wow...what an awesome passage. Thank you for putting it up.

  2. Thanks for sharing this -- I think he hits it on the nail when he says that our 'gifts' as non-disabled people get masked or lost under our 'talents' -- our gifts aren't developed because we're too busy trying to prove to everyone how special/superior/unique we are. xo

  3. What a glorious way to look at the world. I think it is true, also that children have a unique ability to express their gifts but it gets beaten out of them as they experience the world rewarding those people who have "talent."

    This is lovely. Thanks for sharing.

  4. A gorgeous reflection of this person's heart.

  5. Yesterday at the SPARC2011 conference there was a young disabled man helping to hand out the door prizes. I watched him the entire time mesmerized. He was the most enthusiastic host who shared 100% in the joy of perfect strangers winning. "You won!" he'd shout to them as they took their prize from his hands. His gift of Joy will inspire me forever.

  6. Beautiful. True. Important.
    thank you.

    in the spirit of that elusive "true community",



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