To engage your humor and your emotions, that’s quite a trick. I’d like to think that I’m able to do that, to keep the reader off balance—is this the universe of the comedy or the tragedy? or some unsettling admixture of the two?—to go beyond mere satire into something more emotionally devastating, and gratifying. If that ain’t art, I don’t know what is.
T. Coraghessen Boyle
What we tell the siblings of the one with special healthcare needs, despite.
What we tell ourselves about the siblings of the one with special healthcare needs, despite.
What we tell one another about the siblings of the one with special healthcare needs, despite.
What others tell us about the siblings of the one with special healthcare needs, despite.
What we tell ourselves
What we tell one another
What others tell us
- You're really strong and developing your upper body strength! (lifting sibling's wheelchair into car)
- They are learning resilience! (the countless times they had to leave parties, not go to parties, not go on vacations or otherwise "give up" normal childhood passages)
- They are so compassionate! (which they've learned by watching their sister seize tens of thousands of times in their lifetimes)
- They're learning tolerance! (enduring the stares of strangers in public for their entire lives)
- They're tough as nails and fearless! (see #3)
- Look how able he is at age three! (learns how to get into and out of a 5-point harness in a car-seat so that mother can attend to disabled older sister)
- Your boys are so resourceful! (diminished attention at an early age from parents because they're otherwise occupied with disabled sister. See #6)
- At least she isn't an obnoxious teenaged girl! (she's developmentally disabled and hormone swings cause hideous seizures but no discernible obnoxiousness because she can't talk)
- You're so lucky that you can dress her in whatever YOU like. (disabled child is unable to make discerning choices and is basically stripped of all power)
- She's made you who you are.