Monday, April 4, 2011
The first friend I had in New York City when Sophie was a baby, newly diagnosed with infantile spasms, was my friend Jody. Her daughter, Lueza had suffered a brain injury at birth and subsequently had severe cerebral palsy. Jody and I strolled the streets with our girls, our first children, sometimes crying, sometimes bitter and witty, and most always laughing. Not long after we moved to southern California, Jody and her husband with their two girls moved to the west coast as well, to northern California and through all these years, we have stayed in touch, visited one another and talked on the phone for hours.
Beautiful, joyful Lueza died this morning, suddenly, and we are all heartbroken.
Despite the unholy knowledge that Jody and many of us have, that we might possibly outlive our children, it is still shocking when it happens. Unbearable actually, at least in this moment.
I will miss Lueza, her smile, her light, and I am grateful to have known her and to know her beautiful parents. They gave her life and more life and so much love.
Posted by Elizabeth at 5:36 PM
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lovely. Sweet Lueza. Rest in peace.ReplyDelete
Whata beautiful child... how utterly devestating for her parents and for you as her friend... My thoughts go out to both you and her family.ReplyDelete
There is no bit of fairness in this world and as I wrote today- trying to make sense of anything makes no sense. Not when a child can die.ReplyDelete
What is there to say? I am so sorry. I wish peace for the family. I know that's a long way off, if ever.
Thank-you for writing of Lueza. I will tuck thoughts of her in my pockets.
She is so beautiful!!ReplyDelete
Her spirit came right off the screen and into my heart and then to scroll down and then...
Please know that I send love and wishes for grace and peace and gratitude for letting your Lueza shine for us here as well.
Oh I'm so sorry. I don't understand the world when children can die.ReplyDelete
So sorry to hear of the passing of this sweet child.ReplyDelete
I am so very sorry, dear Elizabeth.ReplyDelete
Elizabeth, so very sorry for Lueza's family and for you, too.ReplyDelete
I am so very sorry.ReplyDelete
Sending love to your sad heart my friend and peace and prayers to Lueza's grieving family.No fairness,no reason.It all defies logic and understanding.ReplyDelete
The loss of this child, this daughter, this friend...my hugs to each of you...peace.ReplyDelete
There are no word's for the loss of a child.ReplyDelete
Oh, Elizabeth...I am so, so sorry to see this. She is a gorgeous girl. You can see her joy and light radiating in that photograph. Please give your friends my deepest, truest sympathies, and to you, too, for your loss. xoxoxoxoReplyDelete
What a beautiful young girl. I can't imagine what her parents are going through.ReplyDelete
Oh, I am sorry. She looks lovely.ReplyDelete
I am so sorry. My heart aches for her family.ReplyDelete
she is joy and beauty.ReplyDelete
even here, my heart aches.
holding you and yours...
I'm so sorry Elizabeth. What a devastating loss for Lueza's family, and for you too. xoxoxReplyDelete
I am so sorry Elizabeth. Lueza was a beautiful girl, her spirit shines through that photo!ReplyDelete
I am so sorry for the loss of your friend's daughter, your friend too. I will say a prayer for your family and for her parents. So, so hard to hear of the death of a child.ReplyDelete
So sorry to hear about this. Send love.ReplyDelete
The depth of the pain of that kind of loss is...well, it's unimaginable to me. Just unimaginable. As much as any of us bitch and complain about the trials and tribulations about life with a special needs this or that, I think that deep down we are always truly thankful even though we never actually SAY it, every day, that we still actually HAVE our children to hold on to every day.ReplyDelete
To lose that...well, that is a suffering that fills me with a sadness and an anger that is impossible to describe, and I'm not even the parent. Were I, I'm not sure even sure if I'd be able to move forward.
There is just too much pain in the world.
This is indeed a wound which never heals and there are never words which diminish the pain. Our deep sympathies...ReplyDelete
I'm so sorry Elizabeth! I was anticipating that Lueza had come for a visit when I began reading this blog.ReplyDelete
Thank you for sharing her spirit with us. xo
I am so sorry, Elizabeth. I am thinking of her mother today and send much love.ReplyDelete
Deepest condolences to Lueza's family and friends like you. So sorry.ReplyDelete
Sending love and light. Love and light.ReplyDelete
Elizabeth I am so sorry. What a joy lit face in her. Her mom.. I will pray for them, and for you.ReplyDelete
How terrible. I am so sorry to hear this. Praying for you and for the family.ReplyDelete
I'm sorry but reading this news and seeing her photo for the first time I am struck by the greatness of her life. The beauty she exhibits despite the struggles and hard work, the toil shared with her family, the connection and sharing of incredible experiences that cannot be digested in a lifetime. The hard-won proof of love.ReplyDelete
This is such sad news. Sweet thoughts and prayers to you and to her dear family. xReplyDelete
Tragic. My condolences to Lueza's friends and family.ReplyDelete
I'm so very sorry for the loss of this obviously joyful heart. May her family be comforted in their sorrow.ReplyDelete
so, so sorry.ReplyDelete
Oh no. I'm so, so sorry. I'm keeping you and Jody and Lueza in my prayers.ReplyDelete
Hugs to her parents and to you! FLaviaReplyDelete
Our thoughts are with beautiful shining light Lueza and her loving family.ReplyDelete
Is not something that I can wrap my heart around. It is just broken when I hear things like this.ReplyDelete
Peace to sweet Lueza.
so very sorry.ReplyDelete
Oh, my God. I'm so sorry.ReplyDelete
So sorry to hear this. Sweet, sweet child. My cousin lost her son unexpectedly, and she told me simply: Hold your children tight because you just never know. XOReplyDelete
Oh Elizabeth..I am so sorry! What a sweet face... what a loss! Hugs and love to you hon & her family, SarahReplyDelete
A fabulous smile! It is beyond my grasp to understand how it is to outlive your own child. I am so sorry for them.ReplyDelete